Do you think Regis would actually win the $1M? I say 'No.'

How do you prevent negative and incessant mind chatter from sabotaging your dating relationships and possibly your whole life? When I was on my dating roller coaster 4 years ago, I tried by reading everything I could get my hands on that discussed relationships and positive thinking (by the way, the Bible is the best book on this by far.) I was trying to find the key to using my mind as a weapon, not a limiting factor that would hold me back.  I found some great information but realized that books could only take me so far:   

1. A Book is a 1 Way Learning Stream - no one was Coaching or Mentoring me on how to apply what I was learning to my life.  
2. A Book on its Own has Zero Accountability – the author won’t kick your ass if you don’t do what he/she says!

I learned a valuable, paradoxical truth:

I love to learn how to do things better but that I can be my own worst enemy when I try to apply this learning on my own.

Somehow I persevered and at age 25, I met the woman of my dreams - my beautiful and amazing wife Beth, at the church we both attended. Wow, talk about a dramatic life change!  Now, at age 29, I am happily married and a huge believer in how awesome marriage can be when you find your soul mate, best friend, and biggest fan.

But something about my experience stayed with me.  I started to think of a way I could help guys like me avoid the mistakes I made, stop the negative mind chatter, and find the woman they are meant to spend the rest of their lives with.  Here’s what I came up with:

In January of this year, I started a Life Coaching practice focused on helping Young Professional Men live better lives – in their careers, relationships, finances, and physical fitness levels. My practice grew quickly in the first couple of months and I noticed that the same issue kept coming up again and again with the guys I was working with: “Why can’t I can’t I find a woman to spend the rest of my life with?”  The most difficult part is that these guys are intelligent, talented, in great jobs, and also pretty handsome (if I do say so myself!)  What gives?

The more I talk with men, the more I realize how ’relationship frustration’ is a huge problem.  It is also consuming and relentless – once you have it in your mind that you suck at relationships or that the hourglass is slowing running out and you only have a small window of time left to find ‘the one’, the negativity presssure can be absolutely crushing.

I have decided to go after this problem head on by focusing on helping Young Professional Men find ‘the one.’  How do I help a man do this?  That will have to wait until tomorrow.  See you then!