Nice
To me, being nice means trying to make someone feel good without respect for what actually needs to be said. Loving, on the other hand, means speaking honestly and directly, in a caring and respectful way. Nice is easy. Loving is hard. Choose to be loving.
Start with ‘what’s right’ before getting to ‘what’s wrong.’
I can quickly tell you what’s wrong with something. I am trying to train myself to do this instead: 1. ‘What’s right about this is…’ or ‘What I like about this is…’ 2. AND (not ‘but’), ________________ (insert what needs improvement aka. what’s wrong)
Comfortable
I’m training myself to get concerned when I feel comfortable. Why? Because right after comfortable is a dangerous place called ‘bored.’
Are you good at making judgements?
The Mirror
Not the one in your bathroom. I’m talking about the one that reflects back to you something in your own life when you criticize or complain about something in others. Or the one that reveals your inauthenticities and shortcomings when you’re busy pointing them out in others. That mirror is a hard one to look [...]
It’s easy being a victim.
Doing stuff vs. knowing why you’re doing stuff.
I once loved entering/updating my sales deals in a CRM (Customer Relationship Management software program.) I loved tracking my metrics and seeing them change over time as I pumped in more and more data. Then, I started dreading it. I thought it was mundane, boring, mind numbing – I put it off. I tried to [...]
A startling admission about the news.
Psychology 101 refresher.
Here’s how my mind works sometimes… A. If you do something annoying, there’s a good reason for it: you’re an annoying person. B. If I do something annoying (maybe even the same thing), there’s a good reason: it was something I needed to do. Obviously, this is crazy.
Loving something without tracking it is dangerous.
You probably know that I love running. When I first started, my goal was to run every day – I didn’t keep track of anything else. I did it. I ran for 45 days straight. Then, a runner asked me a fairly simple running question: how many kilometres do you run per week? I didn’t [...]




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