Success Coaching for Men

Think about the most important things you need to do today both at work and in your personal life.

Now, are you HOPING these things will happen today barring emergencies or other urgent actions?

Or, WILL they happen today?

The answer is completely up to you.

Was it the time you intended to wake up?

If not, consider that your ‘word’ (or commitment) to yourself is shaky. And it probably will show up in other parts of your life as well.

In other words, if you can’t commit to waking up when you say, how can you expect to go to the gym, read, meditate, or do anything else that you say is important to you?

If, on the other hand, you wake up when you say you will, you set yourself up for a fulfilling day of making and keeping commitments on the things most important to you.

I hate surveys at the end of a workshop. Usually, I just want to get out of there. I rarely give them the care and consideration the presenter probably deserves or wants.

This to me is a symptom of a greater problem: not having the time to give feedback. Yes, it takes time and there’s an art to delivering it. But, get this: it’s the only way to help people know how good they are AND what they need to do to get better.

I used to be late for stuff.

Here’s what would happen: I would plan to leave for something at the exact minute I would need to get there IF nothing else got in the way – no room for error. Then, I would pack as many things as possible before I had to leave: eat, read, pray, clean, shower, shave, make the bed, iron my shirt, etc. Inevitably, I would not leave at the ‘no room for error’ time, making me late.

One day, it suddenly became apparent to me that people didn’t like it when I was late – it reflected poorly on me and suggested that eating, reading, etc is more important than other people.

I fixed it easily: leave earlier and not attempt to do as much beforehand.

If not, why? Isn’t this more important that the satisfaction you get in teaching?

Have you ever determined what you are the ‘best in the world’ at?

To be clear, by ‘best in the world’ I mean something that you do better than anyone else you know (not that you are ranked #1 in the world.)

It’s probably something you take for granted or don’t even notice because it’s just become automatic for you.

I finally discovered what I am best in the world at last week after a moment of self awareness. To people around me, it was pretty obvious. Yet, for some reason, I never named and claimed it as my own.

A quick story…

Back when I was 18 years old, I was overweight and unhealthy.

One day, I woke up and decided that I had had enough (more to this story at a later date.) It was time to commit to getting in shape.

I got to work immediately by joining a gym and drastically overhauling my diet. In a few months, I lost more than 50 lbs.

Ever since that day 12 years ago, I have consistently eaten healthy and exercised six times per week. In this area, I am truly unstoppable in my commitment.

Shortly after nailing down regular exercise and healthy eating as daily habits, I decided to take on two other daily practices: reading and mediation.

So, for me, being the best in the world means that I have exercised, eaten healthy, read, and meditated close to every day (99%) for 12 years.

I did some quick calculations… this would equate to roughly:

• 3,750+ hours of exercise
• 13,000+ healthy meals
• 624 books read (average of 1 per week)
• 3000+ hours of mediation time

I am not writing this to brag or pat myself on the back. Just to make clear that this is an area of mastery for me. And, that there is even more mastery possible.

I also got clear that helping people establish long term positive habits (and as a by-product manage their time more effectively) is something I am passionate about.

Now, what are you ‘best in the world’ at? My advice: know it and communicate it powerfully.

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If you have a stressful ‘getting there,’ how long does it take you to be fully ‘there?’

Another way to look at it: compare a professional athlete that warms up for a big game…

a. Player A: goes through his regular pre-game routine

b. Player B: arrives late, 5 minutes before game time

Which player will have a better game?

I used to think that all I needed to do was show up. Sure, this is important. But just showing up adds very little value. Showing up plus being 100% engaged and deeply desiring to connect with others is what I am trying to be like now.

Church services, corporate training sessions, workshops, speeches, lectures – are these effective?

I say no.

Why? In my mind, there are two problems:

First, most haven’t clearly defined what the objective(s) are AND how they will be measured.

Second, talking at people is a great way to have them zone out in 3 or 4 minutes.