Success Coaching for Men

You’ve heard of Dear Abby. Now it’s time for ‘Dear Andrew…’
Today’s question:
Dear Andrew,
I hate my job. I have no idea what to do. Help me.
Signed,
Harold 
Harold, my man – first, decide to do something about it instead of just complaining to yourself and all your friends.  Second, pick one of these 2 options: 
Option 1 – identify another [...]

Here’s my honest belief about men: we avoid our feelings – both positive feelings (celebration, joy, happiness) and negative feelings (sadness, despair, rejection, unhappiness.) Why is this? I think men avoid really feeling because it scares us to stop and just ‘be’ for a few minutes instead of ‘do.’  We want to move quickly onto the next action, self-medicate, or simply dismiss feelings as something [...]

Today is the Thanksgiving Day holiday in Canada.  A day off to recover from a monster turkey feast and spend some time reflecting on all the things we can be  thankful for. Here are some of mine:

God
My beautiful wife, Beth.
Amazing Friends and Family.
My health.
Freedom – in so many different ways.
Coaching – super cool clients, colleagues, and a tonne of opportunities since I [...]

Yesterday, we went discussed why Avoidance and Self-Medication are poor options when you are Sick. 
Today, we will talk about a better option: Go to the Doctor (ie. Get Help)   
Admitting that there is something wrong and that you need to get help with it is tough – no one likes to think that he or she needs help to deal with anything. But have [...]

Imagine for a minute that you are sick… very sick. There is something wrong and you are feeling the worst you have ever felt.
The problem is that that you don’t know what the problem is – you just see the symptoms (pain, exhaustion, low energy, wheezing) come up over and over again.  Well, my sick friend, looks [...]

Dear Men (and Ladies),
If you have been following my Blog, you’ll notice that I have been writing a lot lately about where I struggle in life especially in these areas:

healthy eating
motivation to exercise
my marriage
selecting goals
getting enough rest
handling social media
developing male friendships

I have decided to take a brief time-out from writing about my struggles today to answer this key question: [...]

Dear Men: I Struggle… with male friendships.
I struggle with making new friends - sometimes I judge potential friends incorrectly. Other times, I just don’t want to put myself out there - there is a part of me that is shy and withdrawn when meeting people for the first or second time. 
I struggle with developing existing friendships – I never seem to get around to doing [...]

Dear Men: I Struggle… with Twitter.
No doubt we live in the Information Age – a good thing because of how easy it is to access information on virtually any topic… especially while sitting in my underwear drinking a latte at 2 o’clock in the morning.
But also a bad thing because the sheer amount of information available sometimes crashes down [...]

Dear Men: I Struggle… with Goals.
I struggle with goal setting – my initial exuberance for certain goals usually wears off quickly.
I struggle with goal tracking – I have set-up countless systems to record goal progress – only to never revisit them again.
I struggle to remember my goals – I have them written on a white board right [...]

Dear Men: I Struggle… with rest.

I struggle with sleep – I don’t get enough but I can’t get myself to bed earlier. Going to bed at 9 feels like I am 80 years old and have nothing left to live for.
I struggle with naps – I can’t fall asleep or I sleep for 3 hours.
I struggle [...]